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Teri Leigh 💜's avatar

Do Hard Things.

I wish I had taken a less hard approach to doing hard things earlier in my life. (does that sound like a weird contradiction? it kinda is). What I mean is that in my 30s, I think I might have overdone the concept of doing hard things. I did HARD yoga, every single day. Hot yoga. pushing my body to the limits in heat and stretch and strength. I ate raw. I meditated for extended periods. I exposed myself to a whole bunch of hard things. especially a very hard marriage. I spent a whole decade of my life going really hard.

And you're right. it was a huge investment in my future resilience. I'm damn proud of myself for going hard, doing hard, and proving to myself that I could not only survive, but somehow thrive.

And now, I've found a middle path. I still challenge myself to do hard things occasionally, and in smaller doses, little hard things. But I don't make myself be hard through it all. Maybe it's cuz I'm over the mid-life hump at over 50 now, I want to try easy more often. Perhaps the result of doing hard in my 30s has given me the ability to go easy on myself and my process now.

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Katharina's avatar

I believe that embracing discomfort can significantly contribute to the happiness you feel! My boldest move ever was moving to Canada all on my own seven years ago. I knew no one, sold everything, quit my dream job to accept a 6 month contract. But I believed in it all and I believed in myself. There I suddenly was, figuring out the customs of a new country, the bureaucracy and navigating building a life there. It was truly and honestly the happiest time of my life. I was constantly putting myself out there and being rewarded for it. Something also punched in the face when things were going wrong and I had no one to turn to. But it all made me into who I am today (as cheesy as that sounds). Living in discomfort makes me infinitely more happy than having a life of sameness and comfort.

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